A few Months ago someone on Facebook commented that she was blocking some guys who were sending her some perverted private messages. She has LOTS of photos of herself and IMO(in my opinion)most of them are tasteful and some of them are trashy. I responded that it could be because of some of her pics....and the games began! Seriously, a few people all capped "HATER" and few agreed with me, which either way was fine with me. I have been in the fitness/modeling industry for most of my life and have worked with some beautiful faces and bodies! But I truly believe that there is a difference between modeling/showcasing/posing and enticing/tempting/inviting.
Here's where it gets tricky: What is tasteful to me, might be trashy to you and vice versa. I also know that our current society wants to express themselves however they choose and if you try to intervene you are considered judgmental and full of "haterade". The part of me that is old-fashioned or desiring to be Christ-like wants to reach out to those who may not know, it is obvious that it would be useless on those who do not care.
Because of my industry(s), my own tasty-trashy-o-meter may be a tad skewed at times and when I am in doubt, I ask my hubby. Some things are blatant though...do you really have to wonder if licking your lips, squeezing your boobs or being on all fours while in your G-string on fb is tasteful or trashy? Do you keep quiet because you do not want to offend anyone? Do you think "to each its own" and everyone should mind their own business? Do you speak up, but in a way that is viscous, snooty or hateful?
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I agree with you on this one. There's a fine line. I don't think the photo is trashy but it certainly is provocative and sends that "come & get it " message. What I find most disturbing is when women consistently cross that line and then run around asking all their girl friends; "Why don't men respect me?" or "why don't they take me seriously as a business person?" or "Why do they send me inappropriate messages on FB?" You tell them why and they call you a hater or say you're jealous and continue with their destructive behavior acting like they're the victim in this. Disturbing.
ReplyDeleteExactly DeAnna!
ReplyDeleteI don't think to each its own... there really is a line between right or wrong, no matter who you are and where you live. If you demand respect you ought to behave in the same manner. There is still right and wrong, black and white and I don't believe in anything in between [the grey areas, that is].
ReplyDeleteDeAnna has it covered. I truly try to never be judgemental. I have seen how judgement hurts. I have felt it's "hurt", not in regards to clothing or lack of but in other ways --- for sure. And it's painful.
ReplyDeleteHowever, I do have strong morals and standards.
I can choose NOT to look at things I don't agree with but I will not put down others who chose to.
Emz that is why many people remain silent? Bcs they do not want to judge/hurt. But what if the intent is to inform or suggest? What if they want to have morals/values, but have never been taught what that means? Should you only open your mouth to give your thoughts to a close friend so they can know your heart/intentions? Ok I am playing the opposing advocate lol. Thanks Emz!
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with you Joy. I too have a "friend" on FB that constantly post gospel music and talks about loving the Lord but posts some unquestionably racy photos. This person gets offended and posts about when they have been disrespected by men in their personal inbox and how they had to let some "friends" go because of disrespect. This person talks about keeping herself because she is unmarried but I'm not sure what you expect potential mates to think about you when you advertise yourself in a racy manner. Personally, I have a daughter and make it my mission to make sure she knows that she can be modest (or what most see as modest) without looking like grandma and still being cute!
ReplyDeleteTTLOVE218, I love this>>>>"make it my mission to make sure she knows that she can be modest (or what most see as modest) without looking like grandma and still being cute!"
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